Saturday, May 23, 2020
What I Learned from My 50 Different Jobs
What I Learned from My 50 Different Jobs A Jill-of-All-Trades from a young age, Ive had more than 50 jobs in my life mainly because I wasnt sure what I wanted to do, so I thought Id test them all!I had serious angst about my purpose and wandered through these jobs hoping for a bolt of inspiration to hit me. I also had a serious commitment phobia. Although, Ive always juggled several jobs at one time since High School and Im not at all work-shy, I always made sure that I took on short term contracts, maternity covers or jobs that I could easily bail on if I wanted to. I just moved onto the next one, thinking it would be better. By the way, if youre nodding your head, then youre not alone. Most people I talk to are struggling to discover their perfect career. Failing that, theyve already found it but are struggling to make it a full time living or afraid to make a go for it. No job is good or bad, but its how it makes you feel. Some jobs I did just for money waitress, telesales, commission only sales, office cleaner. I even participated in a medical experiment testing morphine based drugs. Many of these jobs were boring, badly paid and in the case of the experiment dangerous for my health. Is this you? Youre just there for the cash, youre on an hourly wage with little room for promotion and you probably wouldnt take it even if offered youre certainly not trying for it. Youre counting down the minutes until lunch and living for the weekends. You might even be compromising your health or sanity, because you feel like you dont have a choice. Some jobs I did because I thought theyd be good for my career consultant, event manager or social media manager. Unfortunately, I quickly developed an allergy to the typical corporate environment and a very low tolerance to endless meetings. A few bad boss experiences gave me anxiety issues and undermined my confidence for the high powered life. Is this you? You work in a cubical, youre an Excel monkey and Dilbert is your hero. You play jargon bingo in meetings. You may earn a great wage but you feel like youre selling your soul. You see your boss more than your friends or family. You dream about saving your money and quitting spectacularly to do something else. Of course, it wasnt all doom and gloom. A lot of my jobs I did for fun and the great dinner party stories that resulted childrens performer, Honeymoon Tester, entrepreneur, Olympic Mascot and art class model. Either I didnt make enough money, or I didnt have the courage to make it a full-time career. I second guessed my talent and lacked focus. My entrepreneurial efforts were scattered and largely unsuccessful. I started businesses that went nowhere. Is this you? Youre in a creative or maybe non-traditional professional, but not possibly full time. You may have to take on other jobs to do what you love. You come up with new business ideas all the time and your friends and family roll their eyes when they hear about your new Million dollar venture. You dont feel like youre living up to your potential, but you know that you dont want a typical career. Despite doing some jobs that I really did enjoy, I was desperate for direction and devoured books like What should I do with my life? (yes, please Po Bronson, tell me!) and Do what you love and the money will follow (when, when does it follow?) I felt if I could just crack that code, Id be happy. Instead, I went from job to job half-heartedly, not admitting to myself what I really wanted to do. (clue Im doing it now!) What do you love to do? Most people dont know (or are afraid to admit it), but thats ok. Dont feel bad if youre not sure. Dont worry if you dont think you could ever make a living out of your dream job. Dont worry if youre afraid. Its all about baby steps. Here are some good starting points to finding your dream job or career and starting on your path to get there no matter where youre starting from. Grab a journal and a pen and lets begin: 1. Make a list of all the jobs youve had in your life Make a list of anything youve been paid for, even if you were there for just one day. Start from when you were young up until present day. If youre anything like me, it might be difficult to remember them all! Which ones did you love, which did you absolutely hate and which ones were just ok? Note how you left each job were you fired, did you quit or was it something else? Notice any pattern, such as quitting after six months or being fired for making mistakes its a classic sign of being in the wrong career! Are there any common themes, or are they all random? 2. Make peace with the past Weve all had absolute shocker jobs. The ones that leave us emotionally scarred and we carry that into the rest of our life. You may have had stressful jobs that affected your personal relationships or your health. Have you had a job that really shook your confidence in yourself? What can you learn from that? Are you letting an old mistake or poor career fit affect your belief in your abilities? Do you beat yourself up for staying in a career thats long past its sell-date? Do you wish you had the courage to really go for it, and you feel like you missed your chance? Forgive yourself for past mistakes and move on. Resolve to forget about the office politics that still plague your mind or injustices you still stew about. Make peace with the fact that you arent a millionaire, a professional dancer in the Moulin Rouge or a movie star yet. Mentally forgive that horrible boss, even if they really were truly the boss from hell. Occasionally, Ill find myself thinking about a particular boss or an incident from a previous job and feel really angry about it. Like it happened just the other day. I have to mentally remind myself that it doesnt matter anymore. Its the past and I can let it go. 3. Find the clues already in your life You probably already know what you really, really want to do. Even if you dont, I bet there are clues in your life. My favourite present ever as a child was when I got an electric typewriter. I loved starting clubs and organisations and I was a bit opinionated! So, not really that much of a stretch that I became a writer, speaker and coach. What did you love to do as a child? Start from when you were little. Did you have a hobby that you loved? Ask your parents, I bet they have some ideas! If you could do anything at all, what would you do? How would you spend your days if you won the lottery? What do you already do for free? Could you make a career out of it? If you know that you dont have the talent, time or skill to make it your living, could you still incorporate it into your life somehow? What do your friends come to you for advice on? Fashion, career, men? Ask your friends what they see you doing. You might be surprised. Take action If youre serious about changing careers or finding your purpose, you have to have two things the intention and the action. The universe loves action and you may start to attract people, opportunities or ideas that can get you closer to a more fulfilling career. Here are some actions you could take straight away: Research someone who has your ideal career and invite them for coffee. People love giving advice Ask if you can shadow someone in your dream profession or do some volunteer work to get some experience Find a seminar or workshop in the appropriate industry Look into further education. Who cares if it takes five years of study that time will go by anyway! Call the top 5 companies on your wish list and ask if they are hiring Reignite some of your old hobbies Write down 5 things you can do in the next 1-3 days. Share them in the comments below so you have some public accountability! (I can also help you with that) Believe in yourself So, you think youre too young, old, poor, short, fat whatever. I dont think so. Anything is possible and history proves it over and over again. Life is too short to play small and too short to be in a job that you hate. I understand that you may feel trapped by circumstances, money, fear, obligation or anything else. Its real, I get it. Seek out inspiring stories of people you admire in your industry. I guarantee youll find stories of overcoming adversity, unlikely successes and tales of persistence that will drive you on. Jealously can be a useful thing too! If you find yourself feeling jealous of someone elses success, just mentally wish them well and affirm to yourself good things are coming my way too. Everyone deserves to do work that they love. You deserve to find something that fulfils you. You also deserve to get paid for what you do. (Some people have a huge block around this, but thats for another article!) Spend some time working out what you really want to do and its the greatest gift you can give yourself. Take some baby steps forward today and soon enough youll find your dream job.
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